Enter the quiet strength of the present moment.
Let the part of you that’s steady and true step forward — breath by breath, word by honest word — held by firelight and brotherhood.
No teachings — just a space to tune into what’s real.
No performance — only presence, truth, and the courage to stay.
SACRED group agreements (Sovereignty, Attunement, Care, Respect, Ethics, Discernment) guide the way.
By the Fire is a grounding men’s circle oriented toward presence, truth, and connection. Through shared meal, honest conversation, and the spirit of the fire, men are invited to reflect, care for, and reconnect to their inner strength and grounded, joyful presence. The space is safe, real, and accessible — meeting men exactly where they are, without pressure, and offering a moment of brotherhood and breath in community.
This is more than a gathering — it’s a remembrance.
Why do we stay in the fire? Because running hasn’t worked. Because safe men make safer women, safer children, safer communities. Because the world doesn’t need more pretending — it needs presence.
What we’ll experience
A guided, consent-based evening devoted to nervous system steadiness, honest dialogue, and practical integration — hosted by Oasis Heart Alchemy in a space designed to feel clear, grounded, and truly human.
Together, we will:
Arrive, ground, and share a meal — a plant-based, gluten-free community dinner that settles the body before the work.
Set intention — name what you’re releasing and what you’re calling in around the fire.
Enter Fire Dialogue — honest conversation and reflective listening; speak if you wish, sit in presence if you prefer.
Receive the salt room — a restorative pause to exhale, soften, and integrate.
Offer to the fire — a simple ritual to burn what’s complete and light the way forward.
Close with tea & grounding — reconnect, integrate, and leave clearer than you arrived.
Rooted in OasisHeart values of transparency, sovereignty, care, and accountability, this circle invites men to practice staying — especially when it gets hot.
Why attend?
You want calm, clarity, and connection without the performative edge.
You’re craving brotherhood that feels safe, honest, and useful.
You’re ready to shift the story you tell yourself about yourself.
You value nervous system steadiness and want tools that translate to real life.
You’re willing to practice presence — with yourself, with others, with the world you impact.
Space is intentionally intimate to preserve presence and personal care.
🎟️ Secure your spot early — our events often fill.
The flow of the evening (5 hours + setup/cleanup buffer)
5:00–6:00 PM — Arrival, Community Meal, and Salt Room access
6:15 PM — Doors close; ritual begins with the lighting of the fire
6:30–8:30 PM — Community Circle & Fire Dialogue (truth-telling, reflection, witnessing)
8:30–9:30 PM — Closing Tea & Salt Room grounding
Our agreements (SACRED)
Sovereignty — you are your own authority; everything is invitational
Attunement — we move at the speed of safety and presence
Care — we listen to understand, not to fix or debate
Respect — for time, space, and each person’s path
Ethics — confidentiality and consent are non-negotiable
Discernment — take what serves, leave what doesn’t
Transparency is a core value: we show up as we are, and we own our impact.
What to bring
Water, journal, pen, and a warm layer
A small offering for the fire (paper note, herb, wood shaving)
Anything you need for comfort (shawl/blanket)
Access & Notes
Plant-based, gluten-free meal included
Salt Room access included
Venue & accessibility details provided in your confirmation email
This is a supportive, peer-led space; it does not replace therapy or medical care. Participate within your capacity.
Reserve your place
[Save My Seat] — limited spots to keep the space intimate and safe.
After registering, you’ll receive a confirmation email with what to bring, parking, and any final details.
Let the fire burn what’s done. Let your presence light the way.
By the Fire, we stay.